What did they say when you told them?

When a grievance like this lands in front of you, there’s a sentence to get good at. If you need to, you can practice it in front of the mirror first. It goes, “what did they say when you told them?”

It’s a gentle shove. You’re not saying “I don’t want to hear it.” You’re just reminding them that it’s a fair expectation that they would try to resolve it directly

I want to get better at this. Embracing conflict is a learned skill and I’m early in my practice.